One of the biggest problems with a lot of new-age spirituality is the multi-level marketing aspects of it. It’s often advertised to the spiritually interested as an intense lifestyle, and with this, your life purpose soon becomes “spiritual teacher.”
It’s not enough to simply be who you are and spiritual, you need to transform into a guru and educate others. Spiritual growth stops being about quality and soon becomes a quantified product.
I think this is harmful for two reasons: we don’t actually need that many spiritual teachers and it tells people that their current spirituality isn’t enough.
Getting married in front of your friends and family isn’t easy these days. Between closed venues and quarantines, your happy day could seem like a lost daydream.
Choosing to hold the wedding in your backyard or a similar private setting might be your only option. However, it doesn’t have to be an unfortunate compromise and can become one of your most cherished memories.
When you have a wedding at a venue, you’re ceding control to someone else. Often, you’ll be restricted in the style of your ceremony, the menu, and even who you can invite.
But a wedding…
I recently watched a video from the YouTube channel Income School that addressed the “fluff content” of recipe blogs. A writer on CNN’s website bemoaned the lack of respect for humanity in “skipping” the life story behind each recipe by readers.
But Income School pointed out something interesting which I believe is relevant to writers on Medium: if you’re trying to attract readers to your blog with a search engine, then your life story doesn’t matter. It’s not what they’re looking for because they’re only there for that one recipe.
Search engines only serve up relevant content to the query…
I’m not a Christian. I didn’t grow up in a Christian family.
When I was eleven, one of my classmates described Jesus to me as a magic baby turned Harry Potter so I’d understand. But I still had some hilarious misunderstandings about the religion, like the belief that Christians partly worshipped a white bird.
But one of the most confusing things I encountered weren’t bible thumpers, but anti-Christians who reacted to their upbringing by co-opting Satanic imagery.
Ironically, it was Satan that I knew the most about.
My education on Satan wasn’t extensive, but I knew enough to be competent…
I’m no longer going to track my time.
Lately, I’ve gotten into the habit of tracking how much time I spend writing, reading, and managing correspondence.
I thought it would help me be more productive, but all it’s really done was fray at my nerves until there was nothing left.
And I think you should stop time tracking too.
Some people have to track their time because they work on billable hours, like lawyers. But most people either work an hourly job or they have some leeway in how they do their tasks.
That means keeping a detailed time log…
A few months ago, the creek behind my house flooded the basement. I still remember the physical exhaustion from hand-pumping water into a bucket that my dad carried upstairs every few minutes to save the house from ruin.
Although the basement was fine, my shoes weren’t so lucky. I had to stand in rising water and my sneakers weren’t cut out for that kind of water damage.
I placed an order for a replacement not long after. When they arrived, my mom teased me because they were the plainest black sneakers I could find.
Even as a child, I was…
If you’ve ever heard of the Law of Attraction, then you know that a positive mindset can help you manifest your dreams into reality.
But what if one of your dreams is to win the lottery?
The truth is that the Law of Attraction won’t work in this situation. No matter how many affirmations you say, scripts you write, or rituals you do, the universe isn’t going to bring a multimillion jackpot into your life.
However, the reason why is enlightening and gives a lot of insight into the way that manifestation works.
You’re not the only person whose trying…
It’s easy to get caught up in the default mood of an introvert: serious.
Introverts don’t live blindly, but with purpose, and this leads them to act with immense intention in so much of what they do.
The downside is that they don’t ever really let loose. And when this happens, introverts become so wound up and stressed that they begin to unravel from the inside.
This isn’t healthy for an introvert because it can lead to unhappiness or even mental illness.
The good news is that the fix is rather simple: introverts need to be silly.
A lot of…
I love stories, especially heroic stories.
The contemporary trend of sympathetic villains as protagonists is just not my cup of tea. My parents love watching shows of criminals running their illicit empires and I can’t relate to their enjoyment.
When I see a bad person, I want them to face justice. I don’t want to see them elevated as the focal point of culture.
But that’s exactly what’s happening.
The traditional heroic figure is a good person. …
I did my high school senior project on ghost hunting.
This was 2009 when ghost hunting shows were popular on television and thrill-seekers were forming their own groups to find out if the dead really haunted their local communities.
I believe in the paranormal then and I believe in the paranormal now, but when I began to explore this topic critically, it quickly became apparent that the symptom of ghosts may be real, but the paranormal nature of that activity is not always the cause.
My opinion on ghost hunting shifted, but not in the ways you’d expect.
Spirituality writer and happy introvert. Also surrounded by a hostile number of trees.